It is the responsibility of business owners, entrepreneurs, managers and leaders everywhere to bring people together to work towards a common goal (or many common goals).
There are good leaders, less-than-good leaders, and great leaders. But what’s the difference? What makes someone a good leader and what makes someone a great leader?
I can tell you that it doesn’t have anything to do with your IQ. In fact, some studies have shown that leaders with an average IQ outperform leaders with a high IQ. So the next time you tell yourself that you’re not good enough, remember that.
What it may come down to is Emotional Intelligence.
Emotional Intelligence is one of those phrases that gets used a lot but if we’re asked to define it, it’s really hard to put pen to paper.
It can be defined as “the capacity to be aware of, control, and express one’s emotions, and to handle interpersonal relationships judiciously and empathetically”.
Relating to others is a vital part of today’s workplace – at least it is if you want your workplace to have a positive and healthy culture, and who among us doesn’t?
The fact of the matter is that simply having knowledge and skills within your field just doesn’t cut it. You’ve got to know your people.
Think of somebody you know who is a good leader …
You may imagine somebody who has the trust of her staff, who is easy to talk to, who makes reasonable decisions and who listens to her team.
These are the qualities of somebody who is emotionally intelligent.
Somebody who is emotionally intelligent knows what they are feeling, what their emotions mean and how what they are feeling can affect others.
But why is it so important for leadership?
Imagine two types of leaders.
The first shouts at his/her team when he/she is feeling stressed
The second is stressed but calm and in control.
Which one would you rather work for?
The five key elements of emotional intelligence are self-awareness, self-regulation, motivation, empathy and social skills.
Coaching deepens your understanding of your own internal dialogue and this understanding gives you control so you can move beyond your self-limiting beliefs and create better relationships in and out of work.
The great thing is, emotional intelligence can be learned and developed. If you don’t have it, you can get it.
Denise Chilton is an Executive Business and Life coach, accomplished author, speaker and entrepreneur based in Liverpool. She worked for in corporate banking for more than 15 years before launching her own coaching business in 2010. She has built a business working with women who want to make a change in their lives, empowering them to experience life to the full.
In 2017, she published her first book Suddenly Single: How to overcome heartbreak and find your way to a new happy ever after. Suddenly Single is a guide written partially from personal experience to help women to heal healthily after a significant relationship comes to an unexpected end.
Denise was also awarded ‘Mentor of the Year 2017’ by the Northern Power Women for her academic coaching and returnship coaching work with women in underrepresented industries like STEM.