One of the first things a coaching client will tell me is that they need help taking action.
Often, that is actually the last thing they need. They are already knee deep in action.
The bigger the role, the greater the action – and it’s coming out of their ears!
The real challenge is letting go of all the action, the working it out, the exhaustive list of decisions to make – and instead choosing to be present.
When I am with clients, I find it really easy to be present for them.
However, when it comes to being present for myself, my head still likes to wander into the future.
The hardest place for many of us with busy minds is the present moment.
How much time do you spend in the future trying to ‘figure things out’ or in the past asking ‘why did that happen’?
“This is going to be painful, isn’t it?” said one executive I was working with.
“Only if you allow it to be” was my response when I suggested his homework between sessions was to sit and do nothing but be present for one whole hour and see what he notices.
In recent months, I have been trying to make quite a big decision for myself.
I don’t have all of the information to be able to make it yet so I have to be patient – not my favourite pastime.
I don’t have full control over the outcome – and I don’t like that very much either.
When I quieten my mind and let go of all the noise and enjoy whatever I am doing, truly being present in the moment is really rather nice.
It is refreshing to let go of all the energy that is being taken up thinking about my big decision.
“Let it go Denise, for goodness sake!” usually ends one of my thought attacks until the next time.
I have been practicing yoga for the last 12 years.
The challenge for me isn’t the physical poses but the switching off.
At a recent yoga workshop, some wise words were shared by our teacher.
They helped me to take a different perspective on the big decision I am sitting with at the moment and it was a reminder of how helpful it can be to turn down the noise in our heads, let go of things we can’t control and simply be.
I hope these wise words will help you put a different perspective with whatever is going on in your head right now.
She let go by Rev. Safire Rose
Without a thought or a word, she let go.
She let go of fear. She let go of the judgments.
She let go of the confluence of opinions swarming around her head.
She let go of the committee of indecision within her.
She let go of all the ‘right’ reasons. Wholly and completely, without hesitation or worry, she just let go.
She didn’t ask anyone for advice. She didn’t read a book on how to let go… She didn’t search the scriptures.
She just let go.
She let go of all of the memories that held her back.
She let go of all of the anxiety that kept her from moving forward.
She let go of the planning and all of the calculations about how to do it just right.
She didn’t promise to let go.
She didn’t journal about it.
She didn’t write the projected date in her day-timer.
She made no public announcement and put no ad in the paper.
She didn’t check the weather report or read her daily horoscope.
She just let go.
She didn’t analyse whether she should let go.
She didn’t call her friends to discuss the matter.
She didn’t do a five-step Spiritual Mind Treatment.
She didn’t call the prayer line.
She didn’t utter one word. She just let go.
No one was around when it happened.
There was no applause or congratulations.
No one thanked her or praised her.
No one noticed a thing.
Like a leaf falling from a tree, she just let go.
There was no effort. There was no struggle.
It wasn’t good and it wasn’t bad.
It was what it was, and it is just that.
In the space of letting go, she let it all be.
A small smile came over her face.
A light breeze blew through her.
And the sun and the moon shone forevermore.